Post by Mya on Feb 17, 2022 8:09:55 GMT
Dear Readers: Here’s a very moving response to my asking readers on Jan. 26, to share their “learning to accept the loss” of a loved one. So many of you responded, and this is one in which the writer describes the nature of grief:
“My wife and I suffered the unexpected sudden loss of our dear daughter in 2014 at age 26. She was the light of our life. What we learned about grief:
“Memories fade. We feel, sometimes, that the world is moving on and forgetting the one we love so dearly. Please don’t avoid speaking about our daughter, worried that it may cause us pain. Knowing that she’s remembered by others is a source of comfort.
“Listen empathetically. Just knowing that you care enough to let us pour out our hearts is a gift that cannot be underestimated. After many years, this is still an important comfort.
“Understand that the loss and grief will always exist. We think about our daughter every day. It just happens. Once we realized that this is normal, a huge weight lifted emotionally. It’s not something we have to “get over;” it will always be.
www.nsnews.com/living/ask-ellie-grief-is-a-process-not-something-to-get-over-5068328
It's OK to not 'get over it'
“My wife and I suffered the unexpected sudden loss of our dear daughter in 2014 at age 26. She was the light of our life. What we learned about grief:
“Memories fade. We feel, sometimes, that the world is moving on and forgetting the one we love so dearly. Please don’t avoid speaking about our daughter, worried that it may cause us pain. Knowing that she’s remembered by others is a source of comfort.
“Listen empathetically. Just knowing that you care enough to let us pour out our hearts is a gift that cannot be underestimated. After many years, this is still an important comfort.
“Understand that the loss and grief will always exist. We think about our daughter every day. It just happens. Once we realized that this is normal, a huge weight lifted emotionally. It’s not something we have to “get over;” it will always be.
www.nsnews.com/living/ask-ellie-grief-is-a-process-not-something-to-get-over-5068328
It's OK to not 'get over it'